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April 25

   "Hatred is a boomerang which is sure to hit you harder than the one at whom you throw it." - Anonymous.
   Is there someone in my life right now that I hate, or close to it? Maybe it's a former partner, or someone who hurt me terribly in the past. I'm holding onto the hate, trying to make sure I'll never be hurt the same way again.
   Does hatred really help me in the long run though? When I carry hatred, my anger can get triggered by unexpected things, and sometimes by my partner's choices. When it does, it usually leaves both me and my SO confused. I react strongly to something that would normally only result in a mild reaction from someone else, and my SO wonders why I got so peeved off at them.
   When I carry hatred around, it infects our relationship in may ways I don't see, just like a virus that develops into a disease many weeks or months after the initial infection. Letting go of hatred doesn't mean I have to forget what the person did.

Just for Today
   Today I'll start finding better ways of releasing anger, perhaps by talking it out, writing it down, or seeking counselling. In doing so, I'll probably find it makes a noticeable improvement in our relationship.

When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness. Our enemies would dance with joy if only they knew how they were worrying us, lacerating us, and getting even with us! Our hate is not hurting them at all, but our hate is turning our own days and nights into a hellish turmoil. - Dale Carnegie

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