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April 2

   When things seem to go to hell in a hand-bucket in our relationship, do I jump in the bucket too for the ride? Maybe I let what is happening around me dictate my own personal progress, my enjoyment of life, and my attitudes. Do I really need to do this? When I do, I get discouraged because our relationship is not turning out the way I hoped. I try to find ways to "fix" things, and when they don't work, I become deeply disappointed and disillusioned, and find myself crawling inside my own personal black pit.
   It isn't reasonable for me to expect my SO to conform to what I think they should be, or behave the ways I think they should. It's just as reasonable to expect the weather to be exactly the way I want, when I want it.
   Once I realize that my partner is a totally separate person, and they have chosen to share themselves with me, not give themselves to me, I can see that trying to change them or their moods will usually lead me to disappointment. When I decide to get the most out of each day regardless of what difficulties life is presenting me, my example will be the most powerful influence I could ever give to my SO.

Just for Today
   Today, if I blame my relationship for making my life difficult and pulling me down, I'll take a careful look at whether I'm really a victim or a volunteer.
   There are many things I can't change, but I can change the way I react to them. No matter which direction our relationship seems to be heading, I'll continue to make each day the best it can be for me.

When life goes into reverse, don't go with it.


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