Unless this is my first serious relationship, I'll still likely have
feelings about a former lover. The feelings may be of friendship, hate, or indifference,
but when someone has been that close to me, their memory can trigger all kinds of emotions
Sometimes, a former partner will will re-enter part of my life in a
different way; maybe they have common friends, or work for the same employer, or simply
cross my path regularly. If I find my former attraction to them resurfacing, it will
probably invoke some anxious thoughts and feelings inside me, especially if they give me
signals they're feeling the same way. If I broke up with them for reasons I later
regretted, I may have a hidden desire to "set things right".
What would I accomplish by acting on such feelings? Is it realistic to
expect someone who wants me to break my current commitment to be able to form a true
commitment to me? If I yearn for someone to love me for who I am, aren't I doing exactly
the opposite if I decided to discard my current SO for someone "better"?
Just for Today
If I feel a strong attraction for a former partner, I'll ask myself if
I'm attracted more to what might be, while forgetting that people change very
Today I'll decide if being loved for who I am is important to me, and
ask myself if I'm willing to give the same to my current SO. If I am, I'll take time to
find out where my feelings are coming from, and what they can teach me.
Sometimes, the only reason the grass is greener on the other side is that there are
more cowpies. - BH
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