It's impossible to live without taking risks. A task as simple as driving a car puts me at the mercy of other drivers, no matter how careful I am. Even if I were to close myself off from the rest of the world in a concrete bunker, a simple germ in the air could infect me and cause me great illness, or even death.
I don't have a choice about whether I take risks or not. All I can control is what type of risks I voluntarily take. Whether I take a particular risk usually depends on how informed I am about the possible consequences and rewards, and what my experiences have been like in the past.
In my relationship, do I tend to try and read my partner's mind at times in deciding whether a particular risk is worth taking? For example, I want to tell them more about my sexual beliefs and fantasies, but I'm afraid it will create a wedge between us, instead of bringing us closer together by sharing an important part of me.
When I hide who I truly am, I believe I'm taking the safe route. I'll probably find, however, that all I'm doing is increasing the risk that our relationship is based on illusion rather than truth.
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