 A little scared - Diane
Hello all. After 20 months of togetherness my SO has
decided (with my blessings) to tour with a band for 6
weeks. We plan a wedding in September, and would like to
open an art store, so this will be some good money to get
us going. This band will be playing in remote parts of
Alaska (we live in the "big city") and has no
road access, so visits are not possible.
My question is...how does time away impact a
relationship? I know it depends on the quality of the
partnership in the first place, but still I am a little
nervous about being way from each other for that amount
of time. Any feedback/experiences would be appreciated!
 From: Bernd
I Haven't had a similar experience, but my best guess
is any change holds the potential of making the
relationship more solid, or less solid.
It really depends what you plan to do with those 6
weeks. If you use it to enhance parts of your
individuality that you may have put on the shelf during
the "together times", you'll give yourself a
chance to feel a lot better about YOU. Many marriage
struggles happen because both partners wrap so much of
the "good feeling" times around the
"togetherness" thing. The more dependent we
become on having our partner part of our "good
times", the more risk we have of feeling resentment
and disappointement when they aren't up to
"together" times.
Other than that, there are no crystal balls. You'll
find out sooner or later what effects - if any - the 6
week seperation has on your relationship. The effects
don't matter so much, as both of your commitment and
willingness to talk about those effects and work toward
understanding them, in ways that build more closeness and
understanding between both of you.
Those are my best guesses. Hope it works out well for
both of you. And congrats on the impending wedding!
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